I was giv­en per­mis­sion to pass along this data from the FGC-sponsored Youth Min­istry Con­sul­ta­tion that took place Third Month. A num­ber of goals and projects had been brain­stormed before­hand. The thirty-or-so par­tic­i­pants at the Con­sul­ta­tion were each giv­en ten stars, which they were asked to put next to the projects they thought should be pur­sued. Every star act­ed as a vote that there was one per­son inter­est­ed in that top­ic. The stars were cod­ed to indi­cate the age range of the vot­er: High-Schooler, Adult Young Friend (18 – 37 years old) and old­er Friends.

One of the “stars” charts at the consultation

Being the infor­ma­tion design geek, I con­vert­ed the resul­tant votes to into qual­i­ties and col­ors and put them into a chart show­ing inter­est lev­el. Projects that received no votes from a par­tic­u­lar age range are labeled “none,” for no inter­est; 2 – 3 stars is “weak” inter­est and so forth, up to “HOT” which are projects which received over 7 stars from an age group.

As an exam­ple, take “devel­op spir­i­tu­al­i­ty.” Sev­en adult young Friends (aged 18 – 37) put a star down for this, indi­cat­ing they thought it was some­thing FGC should pro­mote, hence “strong” (bright red) inter­est from this age group. No Friend over forty used one of their stars to indi­cate inter­est in this work, indi­cat­ing that none of them thought FGC should be pro­mot­ing spir­i­tu­al devel­op­ment. Here are the results:

	High-School Voters	YAF Voters	Old­er Adult Voters
Expecially for Adult Young Friends
Com­mu­ni­ty	weak	strong	weak
Devel­op spirituality	none	strong	none
Out­reach & how to explain our faith	none	strong	weak
Crit­i­cal mass at MM, QM, YM	none	weak	strong
Men­tor­ing by old­er Friends	none	strong	none
Men­tor­ing to younger Friends	none	strong	none
Men­tor­ing to old­er Friends:	none	strong	none
Help with transitions	none	*HOT*	weak
Adver­tis­ing programs	none	weak	none
Sug­ges­tions:
Trav­el­ing Min­istries for AYF	none	lukew	weak
Groups through­out the year for support	none	lukew	weak
Sup­port for AYF groups at the YM levels	none	weak	weak
Data­base to help iso­lat­ed friends	none	none	none
Clearness/discernment process:
For HS to College	none	lukew	none
For work transitions	none	weak	none
For rela­tion­ships	none	weak	none
For par­ent­hood	none	weak	weak
Inter­gen­er­a­tional Spir­i­tu­al Conversations
About Vital Friends Issues	none	lukew	none
Vision of Quak­erism in 50 years	none	lukew	weak
Finan­cial sup­port for AYF	weak	*HOT*	lukew
Retreats for youth workers	none	none	weak
Mate­ri­als specif­i­cal­ly designed for AYF,	none	none	none
Gen­er­al Questions:
How do we han­dle the broad age span?	none	weak	none
How do we tap the ener­gy and pas­sion of this group MMs, YMs & FGC?	none	lukew	strong
How do we meet the needs with­out sep­a­rat­ing AYF from larg­er community?	none	lukew	none
How do we sus­tain com­mu­ni­ty when we only meet once a year?	none	lukew	weak
Especially for High Schoolers
Needs:
Adults who are bet­ter pre­pared to work with them…	weak	lukew	strong
FAP�s that have self confidence	none	none	weak
Help with dis­cern­ment process around college	none	none	none
Help with disc: C‑O	none	none	weak
Help with dis­cern­ment around life choices	none	none	weak
Dis­cern­ment ques­tions: #3, #4, & #5:	none	weak	strong
Build­ing community	weak	weak	weak
Net­work­ing	weak	none	none
Bible study, RE curriculum	none	none	weak
Train­ing how one per­son can have impact	none	none	none
Train­ing on how to devel­op group dialogs	weak	none	weak
Help to get more teens involved	weak	none	lukew
Pro­gram­ming help	none	none	none
Lead­er­ship Development	weak	weak	weak
Sug­ges­tions:
Youth newslet­ter	lukew	weak	none
Email forum	lukew	weak	none
Email data base	none	weak	none
Event b’ween Young Quakes and Gathering	weak	none	none
Youth exchange	weak	none	none
Pro­grams to facil­i­tate rites of passage	weak	none	none

Things Younger Friends want­ed more than Old­er Friends:
In order by AYF popularity:

• MENTORSHIP: The AYFs real­ly want cross-generational men­tor­ing rela­tion­ships. When the ques­tions were first posed, there only “men­tor­ing by old­er Friends” and “men­tor­ing to younger Friends.” Check the math and you’ll see that’s the same ques­tion (who­ev­er put the ques­tions togeth­er for­got that the Quak­er under­stand­ing of elder­ship is not nec­es­sar­i­ly a func­tion of age, hmm). I grabbed a pen­cil and added “men­tor­ing to old­er Friends” and it was instant­ly pop­u­lar. Even though the men­tor­ship issue was spread over three ques­tions, AYF’s vot­ed “strong­ly” for each of them, show­ing ter­rif­ic pop­u­lar sup­port. Almost no over-40 Friend vot­ed for this. This is not some­thing that can be forced onto dis­in­ter­est­ed old­er Friends, which means I think we young-in’s are going to have to rely on one anoth­er for mentorship.
• SUPPORT FOR AYF CONFERNCES: Younger Friends want to spend more time togeth­er. Note should be made that the vot­ers were Friends attend­ing a con­fer­ence and that we were a select­ed and self-selected group who pre­sum­ably like to attend con­fer­ences. Still, this is popular.
• TALKING ABOUT OUR FAITH: It’s sad that only two old­er Friends thought explain­ing the faith was worth­while. At the same time it’s encour­ag­ing that 13 AYFs want­ed this. It’s very clear that younger Friends aren’t as afraid of talk­ing about seri­ous faith issues as the Baby Boomers (it’s nice to see some of my essays confirmed!).

Things Old­er Friends want­ed more than Younger Friends:

• TAPPING THE YOUTH: There was what I thought was a semi-obnoxious ques­tion about how to “tap the ener­gy and pas­sion” of younger Friends. This is very close to the all-too-common gen­er­a­tional mind­set that sees “val­ues young peo­ple as a resource” (as a ad in heavy-rotation at NPR pro­claims). We are not a resource for extrac­tion. Young peo­ple are too often seen mere­ly as a source of cheap labor for projects ini­ti­at­ed, designed and run by old­er Friends; they are want­ed as pas­sive audi­ence mem­bers for old­er Friends’ pon­tif­i­cat­ing lec­tures; they are end­less­ly pro­claimed a far-off “future” of Friends rather than the very much here-and-now present of Friends.While old­er Friends at the con­sul­ta­tion felt strong­ly that young peo­ple should be tapped, Adult Young Friends had luke­warm inter­est in being tapped and high school Friends showed no inter­est what­so­ev­er. While not all old­er Friends think of young Friends as “resources,” it’s a common-enough theme that we need to flag it as a part of the gen­er­a­tional gap. I sus­pect that pow­er issues will sur­face when Quak­er insti­tu­tions try to pull togeth­er projects that “tap” youth: twenty-something Friends are going to want more involve­ment in the design and oper­a­tion of these projects than old­er Friends will be will­ing to give.Similarly, old­er Friends seem to be more inter­est­ed that younger Friends attain “crit­i­cal mass” at Quak­er insti­tu­tions like month­ly, quar­ter­ly and year­ly meet­ings. The phras­ing of the ques­tion is a lit­tle ambigu­ous and I see two like­ly expla­na­tions. One is that younger Friends don’t feel they need crit­i­cal mass to be involved in Quak­er insti­tu­tions and want inte­grat­ed inter­gen­er­a­tional par­tic­i­pa­tion rather than “AYF ghet­tos.” The oth­er pos­si­bil­i­ty (the scari­er one) is that younger Friends sim­ply aren’t as com­mit­ted to Quak­er insti­tu­tions. I sus­pect the gen­er­a­tional dif­fer­ences in respons­es are the result of both these fac­tors, plus oth­ers perhaps.

Things no one par­tic­u­lar­ly cared about:

• No one wants mate­ri­als specif­i­cal­ly designed for AYF. No one wants adver­tis­ing pro­grams. No one wants a data­base to help iso­lat­ed Friends.
• An AYF trav­el­ing min­istries was luke­warm, 4 YAF stars, 3 over-40. This sur­pris­es me.
• Any oth­er pat­terns that should be lift­ed up?

Dis­claimer
I should note that this was not a sci­en­tif­ic sur­vey. Though the orga­niz­ers of the Con­sul­ta­tion tried hard and the par­tic­i­pants were sur­pris­ing­ly diverse for an col­lec­tion like this, they weren’t rep­re­sen­ta­tive. There were only four high school par­tic­i­pants and I did­n’t adjust their votes: “luke­warm” sup­port from them should real­ly be relabled “strong” support.

While this is a small sam­ple size, this is one of the few recent sur­veys of it type in FGC Quak­erism and it bears close study. It con­firms a lot of what I’ve been say­ing all these years (yea!, I’m not crazy) and echoes what I hear a lot of high school and twenty-something Friends talk­ing about. Take it for what its worth!

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Relat­ed:

• I first wrote about the Youth Min­istries Con­su­la­tion in “It’s My Lan­guage Now”