The FGC Gathering today and tomorrow

August 6, 2023

A nice write-up about the Friends Gen­er­al Con­fer­ence Gath­er­ing in Friends Jour­nal by this year’s coor­di­na­tor, Liz Dykes. The Gath­er­ing has been the week-long “sum­mer camp for Lib­er­al Quak­ers” for over a cen­tu­ry but its trend lines have grown wor­ri­some. Even before COVID, atten­dance has been steadi­ly drop­ping. This year Liz reports that only 540 peo­ple came, which is a good num­ber con­sid­er­ing it was at a West Coast loca­tion, far from the mass of U.S. Quak­ers. But it’s a far cry from the high of the 2001 Gath­er­ing’s 1,920 atten­dees (includ­ing me and my then-fiancee, who had met at the pre­vi­ous Gathering). 

FGC has been watch­ing the trend lines, of course, and writ­ing up reports. COVID turned every­thing upside down for a few years. But final­ly there’s some big changes. Next year’s Gath­er­ing will be at Haver­ford Col­lege right out­side Philly, which puts it with­in a local train ride of a whole lot of Quak­ers. There was a time when prox­im­i­ty alone would have nixed the loca­tion, as it might have attract­ed too many Friends (and com­pete with Philadel­phia Year­ly Meet­ing’s annu­al ses­sions, which have become Gathering-like in recent decades), but times are a’chang­ing. I’m pleas­ant­ly sur­prised that a his­tor­i­cal­ly Quak­er school like Haver­ford is host, as I would have thought cost and size would be a prob­lem, but I’m glad for it. Future Gath­er­ings will be every oth­er year, which also seems like a good exper­i­ment: being a bit more rare, it can be a treat to go. 

I’m glad changes are final­ly being tried and wish FGC all the best. The Gath­er­ing has had an impor­tant role in Quak­er life — and not just for the meets-cute of future couples.

Spirit-led following is the key to Spirit-led leadership

July 3, 2023

From Steven Dale Davi­son:

Because lead­er­ship is a spir­i­tu­al prac­tice, its exer­cise needs spir­i­tu­al sup­port from the com­mu­ni­ty. To enable good lead­ers, we need reli­gious edu­ca­tion in the faith and prac­tice of lis­ten­ing and min­istry. We need to view proac­tive nur­ture of vocal min­istry as the pri­ma­ry path­way of bring­ing forth lead­ers in our meet­ings. Lead­er­ship needs a robust infra­struc­ture for the care of lead­ings and to sup­port dis­cern­ment and ministry.

Because we humans are the vehi­cle for the lead­er­ship of the Spir­it, and because most of us are not by nature very good at this spir­i­tu­al­i­ty, either as lead­ers or as fol­low­ers, we have to work at it. We have to learn it, and there­fore, we have to teach and mod­el it.

I’ve been feel­ing as if my own spir­i­tu­al prac­tice isn’t as cen­tered as I’d like. I want to make more time for spir­i­tu­al read­ing, includ­ing the Bible, dur­ing the week.

Quakers Today asks: What do you desire?

July 3, 2023

The July episode of Friends Jour­nal’s Quak­ers Today pod­cast asks: What do you desire?

Leave a voice memo with your name and the town where you live. The num­ber to call is 317-QUAKERS, that’s 317 – 782-5377. +1 if call­ing from out­side the U.S. The dead­line to answer is Sun­day July 9, 2023.

The ques­tion comes from lis­ten­er Glen Retief. Glen asks us to con­sid­er this ques­tion, What do you desire? It is a broad ques­tion that you can answer in lots of ways. What do you desire for your­self? Your future? Your rela­tion­ships? It could also be con­nect­ed to the wider world around you. What do you desire for your com­mu­ni­ty? The place where you wor­ship? Or for oth­er earth­lings? What do you desire?

Belong behave believe

July 2, 2023

From Kei­th B on Red­dit:

Recent­ly I came across the Believe/Behave/Belong mod­el, which was new to me, as was the amount of hand-wringing about it in main­stream church​es​.In British Quak­er Meet­ings the pref­er­ence seems to be: belong, behave, and the belief will take care of itself.

In the U.S. Quak­er con­text, I’ve long attrib­uted the belong-first mod­el to the twen­ti­eth cen­tu­ry Friends who bro­kered a peace between the fac­tions in East Coast Friends 1and affect­ed a reunion with­in the most of the largest East Coast year­ly meet­ings, while also influ­enc­ing a West Coast Bean­ite move­ment that stressed agree­able­ness and prac­tice over theology.

Howard Brin­ton was one of the fig­ures who brought it alto­geth­er. He thought mem­ber­ship was a func­tion of feel­ing like you belonged in the com­mu­ni­ty, he more-or-less invent­ed the mod­ern tes­ti­monies (aka “SPICES”), and focused on Quak­er process as the glue that holds us togeth­er. It was a pow­er­ful refor­mu­la­tion that realigned and reded­i­cat­ed mod­ern lib­er­al Quakerism.

But focus­ing on belong­ing­ness does make it hard to state what we col­lec­tive­ly believe, as one can belong to a meet­ing while hold­ing spir­i­tu­al beliefs uncon­nect­ed to any his­tor­i­cal Quak­er beliefs. I think that’s why we rely so much on con­ver­sa­tions, like the ones we have on blogs and Reddit.

I recent­ly got into a bit of a Face­book ruf­fle over a region­al Quak­er body that put an AI chat­bot on its web­site (and then post­ed an arti­cle full of glar­ing fac­tu­al inac­cu­ra­cies, since delet­ed). It seems to me that AI cir­cum­vents the need to have per­son­al dis­cus­sions. I’d like to encour­age more Friends, and new Friends, and Quaker-curious seek­ers to talk and debate and syn­the­size and then talk, debate, and syn­the­size again. No one’s going to set­tle the answers. The belong-behave-belief mod­el only works if we keep active­ly ques­tion­ing one another.

Update: On Face­book, Melin­da Wen­ner Bradley says that she’s been shar­ing this Belong-Behave-Believe “great rever­sal” in out­reach work­shops and pre­sen­ta­tions and that the idea comes from Diana But­ler Bass’s Chris­tian­i­ty After Reli­gion (here’s a 2012 video of her pre­sent­ing on the book).

Quaker reflections on simplicity

June 30, 2023

From Eileen Kinch:

As fol­low­ers of Christ, we have been com­mand­ed to seek first the King­dom of God. Sim­plic­i­ty is set­ting aside any­thing that gets in the way of seek­ing the King­dom. The Book of Dis­ci­pline of Ohio Year­ly Meet­ing states: ‘The call … is to aban­don those things that clut­ter [our lives] and to press toward the goal unham­pered. This is true simplicity.’

As the pho­to cred­it states, this was one of my pic­tures – way back from the 2009 Con­ser­v­a­tive Gath­er­ing at the Lam­peter Meet­ing­house near Lan­cast­er, Pa.

QuakerSpeak Season 10 begins!

June 29, 2023

A new sea­son of Quak­er­S­peak and it’s the awe­some Windy Cool­er bring­ing an impor­tant mes­sage about abuse in Quak­er com­mu­ni­ties.

I think fun­da­men­tal­ly a safer space for sur­vivors and for every­one would be a space in which there is no anx­i­ety about telling the truth about your expe­ri­ence of the world, what­ev­er it is.

The March 2022 issue of Friends Jour­nal looked at Safe­ty in Meet­ings and includ­ed a lot of brave voic­es speak­ing up about these con­cerns for the first time. I’m so proud of all of the con­trib­u­tors that month.

And a big shout-out to new Quak­er­S­peak video­g­ra­ph­er Christo­pher Cuthrell step­ping into some big shoes. Glad to have him on board.

QuakerQuaker migration starting soon, can you help?

June 8, 2023

Quak­erQuak­er fans, it’s time to start the migra­tion of Quak­erQuak­er to a new online plat­form. It start­ed on Ning in almost 15 years ago. That’s for­ev­er in inter­net years!

The first stage will be archiv­ing the con­ver­sa­tions cur­rent­ly on Quak­erQuak­er. There are many year’s worth of great blog posts and invalu­able dis­cus­sion threads. A recent tool built to exam­ine the source mate­r­i­al for all the new AI chat bots found that Quak­erQuak­er is the inter­net’s sec­ond largest online Quak­er archive. I want to try to keep that — not for the bots, but for Friends and seek­ers want­i­ng to learn about Quakerism.

I will need your help. Dona­tions are down this year. And there are new costs if we are to keep this work going: one-time costs for archiv­ing apps and dis­cus­sion plat­forms, and new ongo­ing bills for get­ting us all con­nect­ed by email again.

Back when Quak­erQuak­er start­ed I wrote a bit of a mis­sion state­ment. I’ll leave it here for you to re-read. If you think this work con­tin­ues to be impor­tant, please help. You can do so here: https://​www​.pay​pal​.com/​d​o​n​a​t​e​/​?​h​o​s​t​e​d​_​b​u​t​t​o​n​_​i​d​=​R​W​9​6​R​E​8​6​Y​E​FJA

Quak­erism is an expe­ri­en­tial reli­gion: we believe we should “let our lives speak” and we stay away from creeds and doc­tri­nal state­ments. The best way to learn what Quak­ers believe is through lis­ten­ing in on our conversations.

In the last few years, dozens of Quak­ers have begun shar­ing sto­ries, frus­tra­tions, hopes and dreams for our reli­gious soci­ety through blogs. The con­ver­sa­tions have been amaz­ing. There’s a pal­pa­ble sense of renew­al and excite­ment. Quak­erQuak­er is a dai­ly index to that conversation.