From Keith B on Reddit:
Recently I came across the Believe/Behave/Belong model, which was new to me, as was the amount of hand-wringing about it in mainstream churches.In British Quaker Meetings the preference seems to be: belong, behave, and the belief will take care of itself.
In the U.S. Quaker context, I’ve long attributed the belong-first model to the twentieth century Friends who brokered a peace between the factions in East Coast Friends and affected a reunion within the most of the largest East Coast yearly meetings, while also influencing a West Coast Beanite movement that stressed agreeableness and practice over theology.
Howard Brinton was one of the figures who brought it altogether. He thought membership was a function of feeling like you belonged in the community, he more-or-less invented the modern testimonies (aka “SPICES”), and focused on Quaker process as the glue that holds us together. It was a powerful reformulation that realigned and rededicated modern liberal Quakerism.
But focusing on belongingness does make it hard to state what we collectively believe, as one can belong to a meeting while holding spiritual beliefs unconnected to any historical Quaker beliefs. I think that’s why we rely so much on conversations, like the ones we have on blogs and Reddit.
I recently got into a bit of a Facebook ruffle over a regional Quaker body that put an AI chatbot on its website (and then posted an article full of glaring factual inaccuracies, since deleted). It seems to me that AI circumvents the need to have personal discussions. I’d like to encourage more Friends, and new Friends, and Quaker-curious seekers to talk and debate and synthesize and then talk, debate, and synthesize again. No one’s going to settle the answers. The belong-behave-belief model only works if we keep actively questioning one another.
Update: On Facebook, Melinda Wenner Bradley says that she’s been sharing this Belong-Behave-Believe “great reversal” in outreach workshops and presentations and that the idea comes from Diana Butler Bass’s Christianity After Religion (here’s a 2012 video of her presenting on the book).